“Action 1st. Mistakes 2nd. Lessons 3rd.”
“My life doesn’t work without my wife!”
“What strengths do I most admire about my spouse?”
You and your spouse are in this thing called life together. Take stock of what you have there. You married them for very specific reasons. What were they? After you write out the list, might I suggest you write your spouse a note and let them know you haven’t forgotten? How surprised would they be if they read a note from you pointing out their best qualities? You could write one note for each individual strength each day for five days or one note a week for 5 weeks or however you think they would enjoy it the most.
What are five things you are looking forward to?
We all need things in our life we are looking forward to. Heck, some of them could even be work related. Are you finishing your degree? Planning that dream vacation? Waiting to watch your child graduate? Are there any babies or grandchildren on the way? I think you get the idea.
What are five things I’m grateful for?
This one should end up being a very long list. Another way to look at this exercise is this: what if you woke up today with only those things you thanked God for yesterday? That should get your brain in gear.
What are five of my strengths?
This one could be a bit tough. But grab your sheet from yesterday and add this to the list. Again, don’t stop at five if you can help it.
What are five recent victories in my life?
The first few days of this exercise are meant to get you thinking in a new way. Too many of us tend to focus on the negative things. I am quite certain most of us could rattle off several bad things that have happened to us the past few weeks or months. To begin to change our mind-set we have to think differently. So grab a pen and paper (and a chair) and write out your recent victories. And know you don’t have to stop at five.
Years ago I started the practice of writing motivational quotes on a note card and carrying the card with me. Several times throughout the day I would take out the card and read it. That practice kept me focused. When I started to feel down or was getting knocked off track I would pull out the card and reflect on it. The topics of the cards ranged widely. That’s what made it so fun and easy to do.
I want to share this daily practice with you. Over the next sixty days I will be posting a motivation. While they won’t be listed in a specific order, they will fall roughly into the following categories:
1) Taking Stock 2) Facing Your Fears 3) Being Courageous/Taking Risks 4) Taking Action.
My desire with this daily exercise is that you will reflect on the words and what they mean to you. If a particular quote strikes you and you want to comment, please do. I would love to hear your thoughts. If the quote makes you think about something new or about something in a different way, that’s great.
The quotes come from a variety of places. Many are from books I’ve read, some are from famous people, some are from speakers at conferences I have attended through the years. When I know the source, I will cite it.
See you tomorrow.
“Life is to be lived. If you have to support yourself, you had bloody well better find some way that is going to be interesting. And you don’t do that by sitting around.” – Katherine Hepburn
Conducting a job search is hard. Candidates face a multitude of issues and obstacles that make it more difficult. There are gaps in employment, age bias (whether real or perceived), too much experience, too little experience, not the right kind of experience, you live too far away, salary disparity. All of these issues (and many more) are significant obstacles to finding your next opportunity.
I believe the first step in beginning to confront, then overcome, these issues is to control the things you can control. No sense wasting your precious resources (time, energy, mental outlook and attitude) on things you have no hope of impacting. Instead, put your valuable resources to work for you.
Did you have an in-person interview with a company and you have not received feedback?
Did you get the feeling you are being ignored or ruled out because of your age?
Did they tell you that you don’t have the right industry experience?
Did they tell you anything at all?
Don’t wait around. Follow up professionally once a week for three or four weeks and move on.
The best way to overcome all of these obstacles is to take Katherine’s advice and not sit around. Action. It’s the cure you’re looking for.
Focus your energy and talents on the next opportunity. Focus your energy on making new contacts each week no matter where they are located or what industry they are in. Focus your energy on sharpening your interviewing skills. Focus your energy on learning new skills. Focus your energy on how you will overcome the interviewer’s objection of your lack of or too much experience. Focus your energy on uncovering new and better opportunities. Focus your energy on what it is going to feel like when you get the offer of your dreams. Focus your energy on all the blessings in your life. There are infinitely more than you are aware. Focus your energy in thoughtful, deliberate, daily prayer because you know everything begins and ends with Him. Focus on those things and your attitude will take care of itself.
Happy hunting!
I have had a remarkable year. As it winds down I can’t help but continue to feel incredibly blessed and humbled for all that I have. And today, as I prepare to spend the day with my extended family and eat an incredible meal, I want to share a few thoughts with you. Thank you so much for being a part of my life and helping me on my journey.
“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” – Marianne Williamson
“Be on the lookout for mercies. The more we look for them, the more of them we will see…Better to lose count while naming your blessings than to lose your blessings to counting your troubles.” – Maltbie D. Babcock
“Every dog has its day, but it’s not every dog that knows when he’s having it.” – Winifred Gordon
“Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting.” – Elizabeth Aquith Bibesco
“Thank God every morning when you get up that you have something to do which must be done, whether you like it or not.” – Charles Kingsley
“When I first open my eyes upon the morning meadows and look out upon the beautiful world I thank God I am alive.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Most of my major disappointments have turned out to be blessings in disguise. So whenever anything bad does happen to me I kind of sit back and feel, well, if I give this enough time it will turn out that this was good, so I shan’t worry about it too much.” – William Gaines
“You will never be the person you can be if pressure, tension and discipline are taken out of your life.” – Dr. James G. Bilkey
“God brings men into deep waters not to drown them but to cleanse them.” – Aughey
“Failure changes for the better, success for the worse.” – Marcus Annaeus Seneca
“Too many people miss the silver lining because they are expecting gold.” – Maurice Setter
“Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars.” – Henry Van Dyke
“Thank God for dirty dishes; they have a tale to tell. While other folks go hungry, we’re eating pretty well. With home and health and happiness, we shouldn’t want to fuss; For by this stack of evidence, God’s very good to us.” – Anonymous
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